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The equation of love.

Wonderfully_Wonky
13 min readJun 21, 2019

Is age ‘nothing but a number’; or like math is it a simple idea that gets complicated?

The May-to-December relationship has long been a source of intrigue in popular media. These relationships are one of the most publicly criticised and harshly judged forms of love. But what is it about relationships between two people with a significant age gap that drives the tendency to condemn them? Let’s take a look at the May-to-December marriage through the eyes of the younger spouse and investigate whether the social commentary and scientific research stack up against my real-life experiences of love with my older man.

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With a cheeky eyebrow raise and the dance of a cigar, Groucho Marx famously told us “You’re only as old as the woman you feel”. Recent research from Conway-Beam and Buss indicates that Groucho may have been more in-tune with science than he realised. Their study found that age-related inferences come from what people see rather than abiological or chronological markers. 0.

There is a significant age gap between my husband and I. In fact, I’m closer in age to most of my own children than I am my husband of 7 years (though it often feels like I have an extra ‘naughty child’ in the room with his…

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Wonderfully_Wonky

OU & Cambridge educated psychologist. Parent, Girlfriend, Freelance Writer, Author, Girl-gamer & disability commentator.